P\u00ebr shembull, nj\u00eb person q\u00eb ka m\u00ebsuar t\u00eb sulmoj\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt <\/strong>q\u00eb n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri p\u00ebr t\u00eb pohuar veten (\u00c7rregullimi i Personalitetit Pasiv-Agresiv<\/a> dhe \u00c7rregullimi i Personalitetit Antisocial<\/a>), do t\u00eb ket\u00eb nj\u00eb tendenc\u00eb p\u00ebr t’i sulmuar ata edhe p\u00ebr par\u00ebnd\u00ebsi (zakon i sjelljes), t\u00eb ndiej\u00eb muskujt leht\u00ebsisht t\u00eb tensionuar dhe t\u00eb gatsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb goditur (zakon fiziologjik), t\u00eb ndjej\u00eb nj\u00eb zem\u00ebrimi i pakontrolluesh\u00ebm rritet brenda tij (zakon emocional) dhe t\u00eb mendoj\u00eb se n\u00ebse nuk e godet tjetrin do t\u00eb duket person frikacak dhe nuk do t\u00eb respektohet (zakon kognitiv).<\/p>\n\n Prandaj, termi \u2018zakon\u2019 i referohet nj\u00eb kompleksi reagimesh stereotipike n\u00eb nivelet e sjelljes, fiziologjis\u00eb, emocionale dhe njoh\u00ebse<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n Nj\u00eb ngat\u00ebrres\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb ngat\u00ebrroni zakonet me reflekset e lindura, t\u00eb paraprogramuara, instinktive.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n N\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, ndryshimi themelor midis shprehive dhe reagimeve instinktive \u00ebsht\u00eb se t\u00eb parat, krahasuar me t\u00eb dytat, fitohen n\u00eb dhe p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsojn\u00eb rezultatin p\u00ebrfundimtar t\u00eb nj\u00eb procesi m\u00ebsimor.<\/p>\n\n Procesi neurobiologjik i t\u00eb m\u00ebsuarit q\u00eb lejon stabilizimin e zakoneve merr nj\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi thelb\u00ebsore evolucionare p\u00ebr qeniet e gjalla; n\u00eb fakt, fal\u00eb tij, b\u00ebhet i mundur ai kompleks reagimesh stereotipe (\u00e7do zakon \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb kompleks reagimesh stereotipe) t\u00eb cilat, duke k\u00ebrkuar pak ose aspak v\u00ebmendje<\/a>, l\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb lir\u00eb disa procese psikike p\u00ebr t’u p\u00ebrdorur n\u00eb m\u00ebsimin e detyrave t\u00eb tjera t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme dhe t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira.<\/p>\n\n P\u00ebr shembull, pasi t\u00eb m\u00ebsohet grupi i reagimeve stereotipe t\u00eb nevojshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb drejtuar nj\u00eb makin\u00eb, nuk do t\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb e nevojshme t’i kushtohet v\u00ebmendje e madhe sjelljes s\u00eb drejtimit, e cila p\u00ebrkundrazi do t\u00eb kryhet automatikisht.<\/p>\n\n Mendoni se sa e shtrenjt\u00eb do t\u00eb ishte nga pik\u00ebpamja energjetike dhe e rrezikshme nga pik\u00ebpamja evolucionare, n\u00ebse do t\u00eb duhej t’u kushtonim v\u00ebmendje gj\u00ebrave q\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb gjat\u00eb jet\u00ebs son\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme \u00e7do her\u00eb sikur t\u00eb ishte hera e par\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n Do t\u00eb rrezikonim t\u00eb \u00e7mendeshim brenda pak dit\u00ebsh. <\/p>\n\n Megjithat\u00eb, \u00e7do gj\u00eb ka \u00e7mimin e vet dhe, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast, \u00e7mimi q\u00eb duhet paguar mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb pak a shum\u00eb i ndryshuesh\u00ebm, n\u00eb var\u00ebsi t\u00eb llojit t\u00eb zakonit t\u00eb m\u00ebsuar dhe\/ose nevoj\u00ebs dhe shpejt\u00ebsis\u00eb me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ky zakon p\u00ebrfundimisht do t\u00eb duhet t\u00eb braktiset p\u00ebrfundimisht.<\/p>\n\n K\u00ebshtu, nevoja p\u00ebr t\u00eb m\u00ebsuar nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb re t\u00eb mbajtjes s\u00eb stilolapsit n\u00eb dor\u00eb, pasi e keni m\u00ebsuar prej disa koh\u00ebsh, mund t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb nj\u00eb detyr\u00eb shum\u00eb e thjesht\u00eb, por nuk ka as v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsin\u00eb, as r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb, urgjenc\u00ebn dhe domosdoshm\u00ebrin\u00ebt\u00eb cilat mund t’i duhen nj\u00eb duhanpir\u00ebsi t\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00eb nga mushk\u00ebrit\u00eb p\u00ebr t’u \u00e7liruar nga zakoni i keq i pirjes s\u00eb duhanit <\/strong>(Kat\u00ebr fazat n\u00eb historin\u00eb e nj\u00eb duhanpir\u00ebsi<\/a>: fillimi, mir\u00ebmbajtja, nd\u00ebrprerja, rikthimi dhe rifillimi i pirjes s\u00eb duhanit).<\/p>\n\n Ky duhanpir\u00ebs mund t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje ta l\u00ebr\u00eb duhanin pavar\u00ebsisht se d\u00ebshiron dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb i vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm se po kryen nj\u00eb sjellje q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb absolutisht e rrezikshme p\u00ebr mbijetes\u00ebn e tij (L\u00ebnia e duhanit me terapi njoh\u00ebse t\u00eb sjelljes<\/a>).<\/p>\n\n P\u00ebr fat t\u00eb keq, pirja<\/strong> e duhanit \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga ato sjellje q\u00eb \u2018p\u00ebrforcohen\u2019 vazhdimisht si nga mjedisi i jasht\u00ebm, n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet stimulimit t\u00eb vazhduesh\u00ebm, njohjes dhe funksionit simbolik q\u00eb luan n\u00eb sfer\u00ebn sociale (mbi t\u00eb gjitha, por jo vet\u00ebm, n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn e adoleshenc\u00ebs<\/a>), si p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb p\u00ebrforcimit q\u00eb subjekti merr nga vet\u00eb akti i pirjes s\u00eb duhanit, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht duke shmangur pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsin\u00eb\/dhimbjen q\u00eb rrjedh nga mungesa e nikotin\u00ebs<\/a>, si dhe duke p\u00ebrjetuar nj\u00eb lloj \u2018k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsie f\u00ebminore\u2019 (t\u00eb llojit oral, t\u00eb tilla si thithja e gjoksit ose gishtit t\u00eb madh t\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00ebs) kur futet tymi brenda trupit (Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet midis p\u00ebrdorimit t\u00eb substancave, ankthit, sulmeve t\u00eb panikut dhe depresionit<\/a>).<\/p>\n\n Edhe n\u00ebse evolucioni ka favorizuar zhvillimin dhe konsolidimin e strukturave t\u00eb trurit dhe proceseve neurologjike dhe njoh\u00ebse q\u00eb q\u00ebndrojn\u00eb n\u00eb themel t\u00eb stabilizimit t\u00eb zakoneve, k\u00ebto struktura dhe procese fshehin brenda vetes parakushtet p\u00ebr krijimin e nj\u00eb procesi vet\u00ebshkat\u00ebrrues<\/strong> (duke iu referuar shembullit t\u00eb m\u00ebparsh\u00ebm, p\u00ebrvet\u00ebsimit t\u00eb sjelljes s\u00eb d\u00ebmshme t\u00eb pirjes s\u00eb duhanit), nj\u00eb proces nga i cili \u00e7do njeri duhet t\u00eb dij\u00eb si ta ruaj\u00eb veten dhe, n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme, ta \u00e7liroj\u00eb veten.<\/p>\n\n Fal\u00eb forc\u00ebs s\u00eb zakonit<\/strong> ne arrijm\u00eb t\u00eb ruajm\u00eb dhe konfirmojm\u00eb identifikimin<\/strong> ton\u00eb, ne i njohim si tonat sjelljet q\u00eb nxjerrim, ndjesit\u00eb dhe emocionet q\u00eb p\u00ebrjetojm\u00eb, mendimet q\u00eb kemi p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsisht.<\/p>\n\n Fuqia e zakonit \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebse p\u00ebr tendenc\u00ebn ton\u00eb p\u00ebr ta par\u00eb vazhdimisht veten dhe t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt vet\u00ebm nga perspektiva q\u00eb kemi m\u00ebsuar dhe memorizuar p\u00ebrmes p\u00ebrvojave t\u00eb kaluara.<\/p>\n\n Ky vizion i pjessh\u00ebm, rezultat i identifikimeve, mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb shum\u00eb kufizues dhe, p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye, forca e secil\u00ebs prej zakoneve tona mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb gjithashtu burimi i secil\u00ebs prej dob\u00ebsive tona<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n Secili prej nesh duhet t\u00eb mbaj\u00eb parasysh se \u00e7do p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb q\u00eb kemi pasur gjat\u00eb ekzistenc\u00ebs son\u00eb mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsoj\u00eb premis\u00ebn e nj\u00eb lirie t\u00eb madhe ose, anasjelltas, premis\u00ebn e nj\u00eb burgimi total.<\/p>\n\n Por ekziston nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb p\u00ebr ta shmangur vazhdimisht k\u00ebt\u00eb rrezik t\u00eb madh: \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme, n\u00eb fakt absolutisht e nevojshme, t\u00eb mos identifikohemi me asnj\u00eb nga p\u00ebrvojat q\u00eb jetojm\u00eb, t’i v\u00ebzhgojm\u00eb ato me neutralitet nga lart, me shk\u00ebputjen e duhur, pa i gjykuar<\/strong> (Meditim<\/a>).<\/p>\n\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/studiopsicoterapiabonaventura.it\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/Abitudine-e-Cambiamento.jpg\")
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